Introverts are observant by nature. They’re the quiet ones who prefer to sit at the sidelines and observe those around them. And no, they’re not judging people when they do this. This also doesn’t mean that introverts are wallflowers. They can talk your ear off if the topic is something they’re passionate or know a lot about. They simply don’t feel the need nor have the energy to be social butterflies.
As Susan Cain puts it, “We’re not anti-social; we’re just differently social.”
but if Mary does die in s3, imagine John’s blood curdling screams
I was like, but Mary died in episode 1 Season 1 and we already heard John’s scre……. Oh wait this is about Sherlock
I know it’s trendy to fight the system and cry that we are all becoming slaves of technology, but this attitude overlooks that computers and phones are tools for communicating. When someone thinks I’m an idiot smiling at a machine, I’m actually smiling at my girlfriend who is 10000 miles away and whom I would have never met if not for these newfangled electronics. As they say: when the wise man points to the moon, the fool looks at the finger.
This is a topic that I’ve been wanting to tackle for a while now; much credit to this excellent post for bringing it to the front of my brain.
"I’m 12% Irish, 16% German, 30% Italian, 24% French, 15% Swedish, 3% Cherokee…"
the most important thing I’ve learned since this post got popular is that nothing offends white…
That’s fair, although saying that someone is white and saying that someone is “just white” are two different things. There are plenty of assholes who efface the ethnic background of white people, and a surprising number of them are white themselves. At this stage in American society, there is an impulse to maintain the monolith of whiteness as a unified, homogeneous front that stands in contrast to “everyone else.” It’s really interesting, stemming mostly from World War II era solidarity and the subsequent all-time-highs of racism and discrimination against black people in this country. I think it’s absolutely terrible to diminish anyone’s culture. I’ve had several conversations in the years I’ve lived in the Massachusetts suburbs with my friends, where they ask to have conversations about me and my life and my culture because I am the only black person they’ve ever known, and the stories and talks usually at some point lead to the person saying, “Wow! I know this sounds weird because it’s not like I’m wishing to have been oppressed, but I wish I had a culture like you. I’m just white.” And my response is universally, “But you DO have a culture!” Every time this has happened it’s been with someone who’s Irish (but I’m in the boston area so that makes sense) and I start telling them about all of the ways in which their family has been oppressed, including their own parents because it wasn’t that long ago. The idea of getting white people to believe that they’re “just white” is part of the racialized structuring of our society, in which it is imperative to convince white people that they have never suffered at the hands of our system and therefore cannot empathize and subsequently stand beside oppressed peoples. It’s a backlash that results from the hundreds of white students who got on buses and risked their lives alongside black students during the civil rights movements, and the millions of white people who finally decided to stand with their fellow Americans in various fights for social justice through the 50’s and 60’s.
There is a ton of stuff to read about the subject. If you want I can go through my school stuff and try to find something accessible to suggest for you. It really is an important side of racism to understand. Personally, I think no one is “just” anything. It’s insultingly reductive, even if someone only has one ethnicity that they know of. Your personal history is also contingent upon social class, immigrant status, and a litany of other factors, and one’s own self may result from your family history, but it also consists of much more.
To go off my earlier example, I’m not offended when people describe me as black. I am offended when my ethic background is discussed, I bring up the fact that I am half hispanic because my mom is from the Dominican Republic, and people respond that I’m really just black because I “don’t look spanish.” (that statement by itself is something i could write a fucking dissertation about! don’t even get me started! I mean, unless you want to, in which case i’m happy to share). Yes, surface observation yields one conclusion. It’s a refusal to go deeper that is discriminatory.
I suppose the joke that started this conversation can be taken in one of two ways. The way I took it, given my extensive knowledge on the subject and my studies in college about the matter, I thought to myself, “That’s right! White Americans are usually products of a rich and diverse tapestry of european ethnicities, and there’s always a little dash of non-european in there whether some people would like to admit it or not!” But the way that people who have dealt with idiots’ reductive comments may take it as just that: a comment meant to erase the diversity in their background. It’s a fair reaction, especially for someone who has to fight to explain that they’re more than that. And it’s something that didn’t occur to me at first because that’s not the way I think of white people. But I appreciate you pointing it out. It’s important to me to understand why that is hurtful to some people. I just try my best to make sure the people who know me understand how I mean things, but sometimes things seem so obvious to me that it takes some prompting to get why it would be.
As for taking American as an insult, I am an American citizen. There are tons of things wrong with this country, but I am, nonetheless, american. Now if people start ascribing stereotypical traits that they attribute to all americans out of ignorance, THEN I’ll have a problem. But the fact is that I was born and raised here, so I am an American. That simple statement of fact without any assumptions, presumptions, or refusals to acknowledge the greater complexities behind my nationality, is not insulting to me.
This was an extremely interesting perspective to read, thank you for sharing it!
Just thinking about how sad this is.
if pokemon were real i would literally never go outside
would you feel safe knowing that, out there somewhere, are hundreds and hundreds of mr. mimes just waiting